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@harnidhk I wrote this because last week I was talking to a friend who told me her mother called last week and said something like “you know, in our time we didn’t have the luxury of being so particular” and she meant it with love. She genuinely meant it as advice. And she’s right! She didn’t have that luxury. Her mother definitely didn’t. The women before us married because the alternative was worse, not because the option was better. So when people tell me or my friends that our standards are too high, I keep thinking- too high compared to what? Compared to women who couldn’t say no? That’s not a standard, is it? We’re the first generation of women in most of our families who get to actually choose, and nobody handed us a manual for what choosing looks like when you’ve only ever seen settling. We’re figuring it out in real time, messily, sometimes painfully, often alone. But we’re figuring it out. If this made you feel less crazy for wanting what you want, save it for the nights you forget, and send it to the friend who needs to hear it today. Drop a 🤍 if you’ve ever been told your standards are too high. I want to see how many of us there are. [dating standards, modern dating, women and dating, single women, high standards, dating in your 30s, independent women, women’s choices, dating culture, relationship standards]
