The creator provides a three-part guide for dads on how to approach Mother's Day. She explains that it's not about the gift but about making their wife feel seen, which can be achieved by writing a specific and thoughtful card. Next, she advises giving her a true day off by taking over all parenting duties to relieve her mental load. Finally, she offers several thoughtful gift ideas that require paying attention to details, such as booking a restaurant she's mentioned or buying an item from her Amazon cart, and concludes by asking other moms for more suggestions in the comments.
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Tag or share with him - dad you’re a rockstar! *Mother’s Day is Sunday may 10th*
we appreciate you and this is just to give you some ideas. we all give & receive love differently.
women want to feel seen. meaning you notice the little things. we want to feel led. meaning you take initiative without being directed.
And I know a lot of you need more physical touch.
And to feel respected & appreciated.
It goes both ways - I’ll make a Father’s Day post like this soon too.
#mothersday
Transcript
Hi. This is what your wife wants you to know about Mother's Day. If you follow this Mother's Day protocol, you might get lucky, if you know what I mean. Okay? Number one, it's not about the gift. She wants to feel seen. And don't check out. I'm not gonna make this condescending. I don't roll that way. I am genuinely here to help. She wants you to notice, mention, and show appreciation for the things that she does day in and day out. So the first thing you're gonna do is you're gonna get a card, and you're not gonna write thank you for everything you do because generic appreciation, it doesn't hit us in the heart. It doesn't make us feel seen. Instead, write down a few specific things that she does that you appreciate about her. Write down what you admire about her as a mom, and name one specific thing that you no that she manages or juggles. For example, I no you're the one who always takes care of the kiddos' doctor's appointments. I really appreciate that. A lot of moms feel like no one actually sees how much we're juggling or how much mental load we're carrying, so that's gonna mean a lot. Number two, she just wants time off from being the default parent. So on Mother's Day, anticipate the kids' needs, anticipate her needs without being directed. Take care of the diapers, the tantrums, the meals, all of the messes no that her brain can take a break and just turn off. You either take the kids out of the house for the first half of the day no she can sleep in and have a slow morning, come back with coffee. Or if you think she needs it, just send her to a hotel, set her up with room service and a massage, and just give her a total break or some gift ideas, some things that I would like. Your wife might like the same things. The only way that you get this wrong is by asking her what she wants or telling her that it's her day. She gets to pick. She doesn't wanna think today. She wants to know that you know her and that you pay attention to the details. So here are some ideas. Screenshot this. Book the restaurant that she's mentioned she wants to try. You could text her girlfriends and ask them for ideas. I had one of my girlfriends' husbands reach out this year for ideas. I thought that was so incredibly sweet. You could schedule her a massage. You could book her a nail appointment and just put it on her calendar. You could clean the entire house for her or have a house cleaner come in and do a deep clean. Check your Amazon cart. See if she's put anything in there for herself that she hasn't bought yes, and just purchase it. Mama, what am I forgetting? What do you want this year? What don't you want? Put it in the comments, and let's give these dads some really good ideas.
