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This Cornell 7 assault has been weighing heavily on my mind as a dad of three boys and just as a man. Kat and I started having conversations with the older boys about consent early just simply teaching them things like their body is theirs and if they don’t want to hug someone they don’t have to but likewise they should never touch/hug etc someone who doesn’t want them to.
These conversations get difficult as the topic gets heavier and as they get older but they are so necessary. Dads, please talk to your sons because as men we need to make a stand it’s not enough just to not be the one taking action, we need to be standing up and stopping other men. There is a reason why women are choosing the bear. We need to do better. Let me know if you want more examples of how we have these conversations, I’m here to help.
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Let me ask y'all a question. If you were in a situation, okay, in a group chat with a bunch of other dudes and they decided they wanted to do something wrong to a young lady, okay, and seven people decided that they were gonna agree to it, But in that same group chat, no one else said anything in that situation. What what would you do in a situation like that? I can just stop right now or tell tell someone of higher authority and maybe someone, with higher power that can stop what they're doing. K. No, in a situation where, right, you see a young lady and you wanna give her a hug, right, and you ask Mhmm. And she says no, what do you do? Take no for an answer. Don't don't keep pushing and pushing, just move on. Okay. And no if you ask her 15 times, hey, can I get a hug and I get a hug and you keep pushing, and she finally caves in and decides to say yes, right, is that still consent? No. It's not because you kept pushing and pushing until she finally said yes because she just got annoyed with you you saying that. Yeah. Because she just she wanted you to stop bothering.