@rhys.menzel
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@rhys.menzel You can tell a lot about a family when you observe the children. The way they speak, the way they treat others, the way they respond to situations and the way they see the world. When a tree produces bad fruit, we don’t just blame the fruit. We look at the soil, the environment, the nutrients it’s receiving and the conditions it’s growing in. So why is it that when a child displays certain behaviours, we’re so quick to blame the child without looking at the environment they’re growing up in? Kids are mirrors. They pick up on everything. The way we speak, the way we treat our partners, the way we handle conflict and the way we respond when we’re triggered. They’re watching what we do far more than they’re listening to what we say. You can tell a child to be kind a thousand times, but if they grow up watching their parents disrespect others, those actions will speak louder than words. You can tell them to regulate their emotions, but if they constantly see adults shouting and reacting, how are they supposed to learn a different way? Parenting goes far beyond providing food, shelter and education. It’s about the environment we create and the example we set every single day. Sometimes the very things we struggle with as adults are the things we unconsciously pass down to our children. This is where generational change begins, when we become conscious of our own behaviours, work through our triggers and stop repeating patterns that no longer serve us. Our children don’t need perfect parents. They need parents who are willing to grow, take responsibility and lead by example. So before we judge a child for their behaviour, perhaps we should look a little deeper at the environment they’re growing in. Because if we want to raise better humans, we have to be willing to become better humans ourselves. 🌱 Voice Credit @brother_pure 🙏🏽🌎 #parenting #consciousparenting #fatherhood
