The speaker poses the question of how to know when to quit a relationship, refutes the 'winners never quit' adage, and offers a framework for the decision. He suggests that after doing everything possible, if one still feels empty and lonely *with* their partner, it's a sign, describing this specific loneliness as a unique kind of hell and illustrating it with an anecdote.
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How do you know when it's time to leave a relationship?
There's an old saying: Winners never quit, and quitters never win.
But if you never win and you never quit, you're an idiot.
I think there's a point where you have to ask yourself whether you've genuinely done everything you can to make the relationship work.
And if the answer is yes, but you still spend most of your time feeling empty, unhappy, and alone, that tells you something.
Because there's a very particular kind of loneliness that comes from being in a relationship with someone and still feeling completely alone.
And I think that's one of the most painful things a person can experience.
Being alone isn't the worst thing in the world.
Transcript
How do people know when it's time to quit? How do people know when it's time to leave a relationship? I mean, it's hard to say. It's like, how do you know when to leave a job? You know, good, the the the humorous answer is, you know, winners never quit and quitters never win. But if you never win and you never quit, you're a fucking idiot. So I think when you have done what you could do, And you are still in a place where I think the majority of the time you feel empty and unsatisfied and alone. I think there is a type of loneliness when you're with someone and you feel very lonely. That that is a very unique kind of hell. I I had a friend who used to jokingly say that the way he knew he was in a relationship is when he was having sex, and he found himself thinking, you know, one of these days I've gotta get laid. So I think that sometimes when you are with someone and feeling alone.
