Divorce lawyer discusses marriage advicefrom @daniellerobay

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You are described as the sociopath you want on your side. Being a trial lawyer in divorce, I've had people say, I've heard you're a ruthless son of a, and that's why I'm here. When people sit down with you, James, every interviewer wants to know how to prevent divorce. With the divorce rate being fifty six percent, it's probably not a dumb question. Right? If I said to you, there's a fifty percent chance when you walk out the front tier, you're gonna get hit in the head with a bowling ball. You'd be like, I'll stay inside. Yes. I've kind of learned what screws up relationships. Because people lie to their therapist, but they don't lie to their lawyer. Social media is at the center of a lot of divorces now. No was always the thief of joy. When you're at your low, you're looking at people's curated high. You don't stand a chance. Do you think it's true that the more people post, the less happy they are? You know, I see that a lot. We fall in love so best, and then we fall out of love very slowly. I hear a lot of people talking about ethical non monogamy. I see a lot of people where they tried that and it didn't work out and it ended in divorce. We're bad at monogamy. I think infidelity was probably invented, like, twenty four hours after monogamy. There's something I no in your conversations where your eyes well up a little bit. You hold back the tears. Yeah. I do. It happens to me a lot when I talk about love. People say, like, well, do you still believe in love? Like, of course, I I believe in love. That's like saying, do you still believe in gravity? Like, I don't have to believe in gravity. Gravity exists. Every marriage ends. It ends in death or divorce. It's, like, one of the only things in the world that you go, I really hope this ends in death. What is your best advice for entering a marriage? Pay attention. I don't think you should ever marry someone you think you're gonna change or in anticipation of them changing. I think marriage is like a seat best. It makes people feel really safe, but there are a lot of accidents that are still gonna happen. Do you think you can have second marriage energy in your first marriage? In your experience, how does money change marriage? I've divided a lot of Birkins. Like, there's not Have you really? Oh my god. So many Birkins. So many Birkins. Question everything. Cross examine everything. Let's get after it.