Explains a technique for conversationsfrom @benhbader

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Reason you run out of things to say when you're talking to people is because you're trying to be too direct. You say, hey. What's your name? Where you're from? Who you're here with? Then you're like, fuck. I'm out of questions. What else do I talk about? No this is a very masculine approach to a conversation, and it can work in a business setting or where you're trying to figure something out. Whereas if you want a conversation to be more light and flowy, it needs to have more feminine energy and not in like a weird way. But for example, like masculine energy is just very direct to the point. It's like, okay, are we going to the bar? Yes. We're going at 7PM. Yes, girl. And they're like, tier. We're gonna go here, and then we're gonna get our nails done, and then we're gonna do this, and then we're gonna do that, and then we're gonna go. See how that's way more jumpy, like you can just jump from subject to subject, and it might not make a ton of sense, but like it just flows better. To get out of this like interview style when you're talking to people, you can ask normal and basic questions, but then just go off on a tangent based on their answer. So let's say you ask somebody their name and they're like, I'm Jennifer and then you're like, oh, I used to have a pet gerbil named Jennifer, but he ran away when I or she ran away when I was seven. Or you ask them where they're from and they say Miami and then you say, oh, my stepbrother had his bachelor party there rank he cheated on his fiancee. Don't take those examples too literal, but you see how that just opens the door for more conversation. So when you're with your friends and the conversation is more playful and you're, like, jumping around from topic to topic, that's more feminine energy and, again, not in a weird way. But when you're in a business setting or the conversation's more serious, that's where it's more like masculine energy that's very direct.