Man gives 10 gentlemanly flirting tipsfrom @professorpanache

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So how does a gentleman flirt without being creepy? The difference between a gentleman and a creep is that when a gentleman flirts, he's not trying to obtain anything. Another modern tragedy is that most confuse flirting with a hostage negotiation. They corner and they interrogate, question upon question that leads to creepiness. That faint better unmistakable feeling that the person one is speaking to has already decided what the outcome should be and is now annoyed that reality isn't signing the paperwork. A gentleman, however, understands that chemistry is not a vending machine. You cannot simply insert compliments and expect affection to drop into the collection tray with a satisfying clunk. So he no, and he listens. He says something amusing rather than something that he heard in a podcast once that was hosted by a man who owns more ring lights than books. He compliments with honesty. His humor creates comfort. He remains entirely capable of surviving a no without requiring counseling, litigation, or a 12 message closing argument. This is what separates charm from desperation. Desperate people are trying to secure an outcome. Charming people are just enjoying an experience. If you'd like to flirt, treat the conversation itself as the reward. The moment you need something from that interaction, everyone can tell. And here's another great irony. The people most determined to be liked often are the least likable. And finally, counter creepiness by knowing when to leave. Nothing enhances a gentleman's charm quite like a graceful exit. Tier desperate man lingers. The gentleman departs, however, while people are still pleased that he arrived. Remember, you can't convince someone to like you. Flirting is merely you creating moment pleasant enough that they might actually want to.