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“A man has two lives. And the second one begins when he realizes he has only one.”
My dad’s death changed me forever. But in ways I’m proud of. I hold no bitterness. I am more patient. I care for others more deeply. I value my time more. And most importantly, I want to empty the tank on my life before my time comes.
“Remember one day you’re going to die. And in 1 or 2 generations no one will remember your name. What a shame to live a life worrying what others may think about you. Oh and by the way, they aren’t thinking about you.” - @hormozi
Transcript
Me tell you something. If you've had the privilege of being intimately exposed to death or dying, you've been given one of the greatest gifts that life can give you. I get asked all the time, how do I get out of my own way? How do I get over the fear of judgment? I'll tell you how. Realize that you worse going to die. And I know we all know that inherently. But my dad died last year, and me and my mom became his full time caretaker for the last seven months of his life. It was the worst thing I've ever been through. It was traumatic. It was exhausting. I was depressed for seven months. It was horrific. I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy. But it was also simultaneously the greatest gift I've ever been given because I got to watch my hero, my idol, the man who I knew to be ten feet tall and bulletproof, have everything stripped away from him. Everything that he associated with the identity of being a man, a protector, a provider, someone who's traveling and autonomous, to have all of that ripped from him and talk about and experience the things he wishes he would have done more of when he realized his mortality was imminent. And that was a beautiful gift. I don't care what people think of me because I know what it's like to be on your deathbed. Not through my own experience, but through watching my best friend in the world go through it. It's why I love James one better one verse two through four. Count it all joy when you face trials of many kinds. The rest of that verse is beautiful. Look it up. Your ability to embrace death and mortality is going to reduce all barriers and friction that you have to living the life that you want and being who you want to be. I don't care what people think of me because I care what I think of me when I take my last breath, and I care what Good will say to me when I meet him one day. That's how you get out of your own way. It isn't easy, but it is simple. Don't over complicate it.
