Podcast interview about getting divorcedfrom @callherdaddy

Transcript

What was the actual moment you knew you needed? Okay. It's gonna happen. I need this divorce. So in the last year, I've told him actually a few different times I wanna get divorced, but he always, like, calms me down. Give me a few days. Let's try to work on it. He's better for a few days, and then it goes back. What happened was I have been in limbo for a while, and anyone that's lived in limbo knows it's excruciating where I'm like, I don't know if this is right or not. I literally woke up one day, and I was like, it's such a simple thought, but I was like, I can change this. I can change my life. I can be happy. It's gonna be hard, but I can do this, and my life doesn't have to be this way. And it was like something flipped, and I was like, I'm done. And I could not go back after that. How did you tell him? How did where were you? That feeling came to me on a Thursday, and I told him on Friday tier next day. I wasn't gonna tell him till the weekend because I was like, let's you know, I'll get the kids out of the house and whatever. But on Friday, he came up to my room. I was getting ready in my closet, and he was like, I just talked to the kid's therapist because we have him in therapy, and she thinks we need to start going together every week with them. And can you make that happen? And I was like, oh, I'm leaving you this weekend. Like, but I couldn't say that. So I was like, I just don't know if our if our schedules are gonna work. Like, it may work if you take them and I take them. And he was like, why? The kids are the most important thing. Like, why? And I was like, I I wanna get divorced. I just said it. And he was like, okay. And his emotions were, like, calm, then bad, and then he kinda gaslit me and was like, you're not healed enough. That's why. Like, you can't love yourself yes. So you need to figure that out first, and then you'll realize this isn't what you want. And then he was like, you know, you're you're cheating on me again. And I'm like like, it was all over the place. And I just had to be like, Jordan, like, I need you to know I've thought about this every single day for the last four years, and this is I'm choosing myself. And, you know, we thought a little bit, but it he finally understood. He's, like, still talking to me, and it kinda got to a point where he was, like, gaslighting me and stuff. So I finally was like, this is how most of our fights are. I'm like, I'm leaving. I need you to stop. And he literally, like, called me downstairs, and I had to, like, better my car and drive off. And then did you sleep in the house that night? No. I have not been back since. I've been back to see the kids. I did sleep there one night, actually, but other than that, I've been at a hotel. How was sleeping there that one night? This is where, actually, I think a lot of women will relate. So I was in a hotel, and I had a girls' night with my friends. This was maybe two days after I left. And we were drinking wine and just talking about it. I was, like, so bad, and I could not sleep that night. And at 4AM, I was, like, I'm Ubering home. I wanna be with my kids. I wanna be in my house. I just felt so like I didn't have a home. I was, like, so misplaced. And, I went home, and I I went into the bad, and he was there. And I ended up having sex with him. I was like, okay. But if I do, this doesn't change anything. And he was like, it won't. It won't. And I did. Better, literally, I'm so glad I did because after that moment, I was like, nope. Never again. It was a good closing of the chapter.