Direct address gentleman advice playbookfrom @professorpanache

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Gentlemen, if you see someone crying, do not panic. Do not immediately attempt to fix the situation like a man who's mistaken emotions for a leaking pipe. No a gentleman does not reach for a wrench. He certainly does not say, don't cry worst stop crying, please, which has never worked in the history of crying. No. He understands something crucial. This is not a problem to be solved. This is a moment to be held. So what should you do exactly? First, you do something quite radical. You stay. Do not check your phone. Do not glance around for a more comfortable emotional climate. You remain. That's it. Second, you listen. Not the enthusiastic interrupting kind of listening that begins with, I know exactly what you mean. No. No. You don't. You listen the way one listens to say, bad adelo, bhai arijit sing without trying to improve it. The kind of listener that says, please take your tier, I'm not going anywhere. Third, you offer comfort with restraint. A tissue, not a thesis, a glass of water, not a strategy, better perhaps a handy welcome. And absolutely no sentence that begins with, this reminds me of when you're not Wolverine and this is not your origin tier. And finally, when the tears subside, as they always do, you do not rank, do you feel better no? As though you have personally resolved the situation, you simply remain gracious, decent, which these days is practically heroic because anyone can advise, many will actually perform. A few will actually accidentally make it even worse, and a surprising number will make it about themselves. But a gentleman, a real one, knows when to do almost nothing and does it exceptionally well. Also, a real gentleman makes sure, before he offers his time, that the one crying is simply not reacting to a bhaya rijit sing playlist that they've been listening to on Blue.