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I really didn’t realize how controversial it was to actually enjoy spending time with your partner until reading some of these comments 😂 But after almost 15 years together, she’s still my favorite person to hang out with.
We have inside jokes, common interests, similar humor, and can make even errands fun. TBH I thought that was the goal when building a life with someone 🤷🏾
Not saying couples shouldn’t have their own hobbies or friendships but I’ll never understand acting like it’s embarrassing to like your partner enough to spend a lot of time with them.
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I find it so weird that people act like spending time with your wife is some kind of punishment. And I get comments like this from time to time. Anytime I post about spending as much of my free time as possible with my wife, whether that's running errands together, staying home together, going to games together, even just sitting around talking about our day. There's always guys in the comments acting like I'm being held hostage, talking about, bro, blink twice if you need help. And I'm always thinking, do y'all actually just not like your partner? Here's the thing people are missing. My wife is fun. We've been together almost fifteen years. We have a million inside jokes. We can make grocery shopping fun. We like a lot of the same shows, the same restaurants, the same kind of humor. We'll literally end up sitting in the kitchen and talking for an hour after the kids go to bed because we generally like hanging out with each other. And don't get me rank, we still have our own interests, our own friends, our own space sometimes, but I think people assume spending a lot of time together automatically means your relationship is unhealthy or codependent or boring. Honestly, I think that should be the goal. Isn't that the goal? Am I or am I tripping? Like, if I'm building a life with somebody, raising kids with somebody, doing everyday life with somebody, why wouldn't I wanna be with that person also best my favorite person that I hang out with? And I think somewhere along the way, people would normalize talking about marriage like your spouse is annoying. Like the old ball and chain jokes are acting like wanting to be around your wife makes you less masculine or something. Better me personally, I think it's actually a flex when your marriage still feels fun after this many years. When your wife is still the person you wanna send memes to first, when errands together feel like hanging out, when even stressful seasons together are still easier because you actually enjoy each other as people. I don't know. I just think a lot of these people would enjoy marriage if they stop acting like their partner is embarrassing or no. Because I'm telling you right now, once these kids are gone, they're off to college, they bad their own families, guess who I'm with? My wife. Who you with? Who you with?
