Couple uses story to teach conceptfrom @timmchiusano

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This is how to spend all day long with your wife and not turn into a crotchy best couple that bickers. Welcome back to how to get addicted to appreciation, a series about noticing and valuing the good in your world. Today's topic is turning your differences into strengths. My wife, Kelly, and I have been married for twenty one years. We rank actually quite different in a lot of regards. She's a social butterfly that loves to host. I'm a quiet curmudgeon. She is way more jovial and outgoing, and I'm a bit more of a tight ass. If given the choice, she would just wanna lay around and cuddle all day, or I would probably get anxious and make complaints about my acid reflux from laying down too much. And yet together, we're a goddamn powerhouse. I always knew that encouragement was part of the secret sauce for us. See, what do you need to have the best day to day conversation consistently? But there's something else about those differences becoming strengths, especially since I started working from home two years ago. Better the first nineteen years of our marriage where we each went our separate ways during the day, I noticed that things continue to get stronger the more I appreciated her for who she was, which may sound obvious, but there's a pattern to it and it's called aliphilia. It's when you're able to recognize the things that might make you spiteful and are able to go beyond ways that are just tolerating them and you literally turn them into strengths. It goes from my hate that she planned so many things for us to, well, I guess I just suck it up and no, to understanding how it makes my life richer too. And in return, she understands why sometimes I just like alone time in a quiet place. Aliphilia is what makes the greatest teams the greatest tier. And thankfully, it's something you can choose to do. And it takes a bit of work like anything else. But