ADHD's impact on his relationshipfrom @bradjcho

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My brain is ruining my relationship and now I'm fighting back. For a long time, I've struggled with staying on task, prioritizing the right things, and just keeping track of all the things my girlfriend wants to do. My thoughts were pretty chaotic, and no matter how hard I tried, things always seemed to just slip through. She would tell me something important, and I would just forget. Not because I didn't care, but because my brain just wouldn't hold on to it. Last month, I was diagnosed with severe ADHD. I'd always done well in school, so this came as a shock. But things just started to make a little bit more sense. It explained things like why I struggle to focus, why I forget things she's told me, and why it felt like my mind was running a 101 different directions all at once. The thing is ADHD just explains the behavior, but it doesn't excuse it. And a diagnosis isn't just a free pass. She still deserves a partner who shows up, and now it's my job to figure out how. So I've worked on being more intentional with her. Every week, we've been checking in with each other and asking questions like, how did this week go? What should I focus on this week to improve? And how can I be a more present partner this week? And what I've been doing is writing different date ideas that she mentions and setting reminder alarms no I don't forget. I learned that you need to plan ahead instead of hoping that you'll remember. You see, a diagnosis explains problems, but accountability changes them. And even though my brain might be working against me, I'll never stop working for her. So let me know how you manage ADHD in your relationship. Tier eight days in, $3,091.60 out of 6,500. Follow to see how long it takes.