The speaker recounts a personal story from his first trip to Senegal, where he observed men holding hands platonically. He describes his initial confusion, shaped by his New York background, and his subsequent epiphany that he had been 'robbed' by Western cultural norms around masculinity, patriarchy, and homophobia, which prevented such open affection in his own friendships.
Transcript
I remember my first trip to the continent. I landed in tier car, Senegal, and, right on the tarmac, I looked out the window and I saw two men holding hands. One was, like, in uniform, and the other one was, like, in regular clothing. I thought to myself, is he under arrest? And I saw two other men holding rank. And I looked further, and I saw two boys holding hands, laughing, talking. And me, like, I'm from New York, and so I immediately was like, yo, world. But actually, like, within a matter of seconds, it kinda dawned on me that that I had been robbed. The role of homophobia and patriarchy and all of this stuff, heteronormative behavior, all of these, like, better ideals and precepts. I've realized how deep Bad been indoctrinated. I thought of my relationship to my male friends and how that essentially would never happen between us. Later on, I went to visit my my mom in this