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Two speakers discuss the biggest marriage killer, which is when partners stop seeing each other and making each other feel seen. They discuss how people become blind to the things they see most often, and how to avoid this and maintain a healthy relationship.
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What stops the scroll in the first 3 seconds
Title hook · 15%
the biggest
Verbal hook · 80%
The biggest marriage killer is is we stop seeing our partner, and we stop making them feel seen.
Visual hook · 5%
Close up shot of man in white shirt and tie speaking into a microphone.
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The biggest is when we stop making feel seen.
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The promise the opener makes, and how the video pays it back
Hook
Identify the biggest marriage killer.
Payoff
Concludes that a lot of misery in relationships comes from not feeling seen anymore.
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The structural pattern this video runs on
Framework
Relationship Killer Revelation
The biggest relationship killer is not feeling seen, which happens when partners become blind to each other over time.
The Killer Reveal
States the biggest marriage killer: partners stop seeing each other.
The Couch Analogy
Uses the analogy of a couch that has been around for 20 years to illustrate how people become blind to things they see every day.
The Dating Comparison
Compares the feeling of being in a long-term relationship to the feeling of dating someone new, where both parties feel interested and interesting.
The 'Someone' Yearning
Recalls the initial desire to find someone who loves and sees you.
The 'Got It' Trap
Explains how people fall into the trap of thinking they have 'got' their partner and move on to other things.
The Loneliness Paradox
Highlights the unique misery of feeling lonely and alone when you are with the person who is supposed to be your deepest connection.
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the biggest
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killer is,
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is we stop
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seeing
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our partner.
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stop making them
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feel
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seen,
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because
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become
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things
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most often
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to discover
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the fish.
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it is.
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every day at
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some point
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there.
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it is.
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one then
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be very mindful
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of it.
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in a
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relationship,
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temptation
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oh,
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I found it
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person.
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the thing,
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wearing the rings,
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other,
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about that anymore.
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all the
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thousand
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shocks,
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too, you
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know.
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fact, like
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this,
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this connection
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so important
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that,
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dating
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someone.
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You feel
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interested,
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you feel
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interesting.
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equally
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a time
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all of us
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I just-
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I just want
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someone.
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I want to
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someone.
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find someone
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who loves me,
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me and I'll
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and
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receive
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my love"
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I think
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the person
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supposed
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deepest
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connection
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feel lonely
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and alone,
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a very
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brand of misery.
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seen
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anymore.
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that kills
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marriages
The biggest marriage killer is is we stop seeing our partner, and we stop making them feel seen. Because I think we become blind to the things we see most often. You no, whoever discovered better, it wasn't a fish. You no? Like, I have a couch that I've had for, I think, probably twenty years. I couldn't tell you what color it is because I sit on it every day at some point. But I've just become blind to it because it's just there. It's the couch. It's always there. You know? If I got a new one, then I would probably be very mindful of it. But I think it's the same thing. In a long term relationship, there's a temptation to say, oh, I I found it. I found this person. We did the thing. We're wearing the rings. We connected to each other. We're good. Like, I don't have to worry about that anymore. I can worry about all the thousand other natural shocks the flesh is tier to. You know? And in fact, like, this this thing, this connection is so important that, you know, when you when you think about when you're dating someone, you feel interested and you feel interesting. And those are both equally intoxicating. Yeah. There was a time where all of us best, I just, I just wanna find someone. Mhmm. Like, I wanna find my someone. I wanna find someone who loves me and sees me and I'll love them and and they'll receive my love. And then you have it and you just kinda, okay, I got that no, and I'll move on to other things. I think when you are with the person who's supposed to be your deepest connection and you feel lonely Mhmm. And alone, that's a very unique brand of misery. So I think a lot of that comes from not feeling seen anymore. And I I think that's something that kills marriages in a real way.