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A lot of men weren’t taught how to notice. We were just expected to figure it out
I’m being intentional about it. Teaching my boys to see what needs to be done without being asked. To care about the space they share. To be the kind of man their future partner never has to beg for help.
It’s not one conversation. It’s a hundred small moments done consistently.
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I feel sorry for the wives who ended with men whose dad never taught tier this. And the comments are asking how I actually teach my boys to no. So let me break this down real quick because it's not just one thing. It's a few things that I like to do consistently. So the first thing I do is narrate my own actions out loud. I'll walk past something that spilled in the kitchen. Right? I didn't spill it, but I'll say, I see that. I didn't do it, but I'm gonna clean it up before it becomes a bigger thing. I'm not gonna lecture them about it. I'm just gonna show them in real time what noticing looks like so that way it becomes normal to them. So number two, ask questions. Right? Before you leave a room, I like to tell them, hey. Before you walk out, did you notice anything? Is there anything in here that you can take with you and put in another room where it's supposed to go? I'm not pointing out that thing, but I want their eyes to scan the room on their own. That's the actual skill that I'm building for them. Number three is shared accountability. So I'll tell my sons, you know, I know that's your brother's hat or whatever it is, a toy, whatever. But in this house, we all contribute. So if you're going upstairs anyway, it would make this room better and your brother happier if you just put it in his room. That's not being a servant to your better. That's just being someone who cares about the space that you share. This is the last one, and this one matters. I never silently redo something that they've missed. So if they walk past a couple encounter, I'll just pick it up and say, hey. Did you see this? This is what I want your brain to start noticing and catching best so that they can build that awareness in their brain. And that's all of it. And the goal isn't to have a clean house. I mean, when you're living with kids, you're never gonna have a clean house, but it is gonna be tier. But that's the goal. I want them to understand how to notice things. And also the biggest thing out of everything is I don't wanna raise grown men, and they just walk past stuff rank they assume it's someone else's problem. So that's the good. That's what I wanted to share. Hope this helps somebody out there. Peace.
