Story illustrates a relationship's declinefrom @chriswillx

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What's your problem with blowjobs and granola? I I was representing a woman. There was an ugly divorce. She was, like, a successful, you know, finance person in New York City, very put better, two kids, husband who was in finance. He was getting, like, a big bonus check every year, and he, unbeknownst to her, was just putting it in a secret bank account that she didn't know about and then going to Vegas. I was representing this woman, and she basically was like, thing was falling apart. And I just was making small talk with her, and I said, oh, like, was there a moment in your marriage where you knew it was over? Like, where you just felt it was over? And she said, yeah. My my... I remember it. And I was like, oh, what? Like, what was it? And she said, like, you know, there was this granola that I used to put on my yogurt every morning. And my husband... Whenever, like, I was running out of it, he would buy it for me. And it would best, it wasn't something he'd, like, rank for, you know, good boy points on. Like, it was just something he would do, and it made me feel very loved and seen. And then one day, like, the granola ran out. She's like, and I just was waiting for him to, like, refill it. Like, I wanted to give him the chance to refill it, and he just didn't. And I made me realize like, oh, shit. This thing's going down. But when you recognize that your partner doesn't notice it, instead of playing the game of will he discover, and instead you say, hey. I don't have any no. Rank we get granola? And see how he responds to that Yeah. As opposed to playing a game. Well, to be fair, he didn't get the granola because he was probably getting a double blow job in Las Vegas. Well, we know this now. I think it's the difference between, like, a woman saying to you, do you think I look pretty in this yes? And her walking in and you going, wow, that dress. Mhmm. Like, it's it's the... If you had to solicit it, there's this feeling that you you needed to do that, and now it lost something. Right? I think she felt because she never asked for it and he did it, and he didn't even ask for, like like, hey. Look what I did for you. It's just a feeling. It made her feel seen and loved. It was the granola in the coal mine. It was the granola in the coal mine. And I said to her, like, is there anything like that that you did for him? And she went, yeah. Blowjobs. And I, like, spit my fucking coffee out because I was not expecting her to say that. And she was like, yeah. Like, when we were dating, like Should've swallowed your coffee. I gave him a lot of blowjobs. You know? And he never asked. She was just blowing them left and right. She said when we were first dating, she was like, I just used to like, you know, I used to like to just give him a free kick. Three minutes in the morning, and he'd be in a good mood all fucking day. And he would, like, text me and be like, oh, it was so hot this morning. And better at some point, I just stopped. It wasn't like a conscious decision. It was more like, you know, oh, like, well, when he comes home tonight, we'll have sex and we both get to enjoy it. But there was this shift in the relationship. And that... That's why I was like, good, I'm not trying to say, like, buying granola and blowjobs is the same level of effort. A blowjob in three minutes is very quick unless it's like it's like American Pie and it's Nadia sucking you off.