Explaining psychology behind a quotefrom @sensei.nick

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Okay. I saw this quote on TikTok, and I thought it was hilarious. And it's people don't really like you when you like yourself more than they think you should. And it's funny because it's not trying to be funny. It's just true. So once you stop being permission to feel good about yourself, people's reactions get very predictable. They don't say what they're actually feeling. They don't say, this makes me feel uncomfortable. They say things like, you're arrogant, or who do you think you are? And after a while, you realize it's not personal, and it's, like, almost scripted. What's really happening is comparison, which is automatic. No when seeing when someone sees you liking yourself more than than they think you've earned, it creates this weird tension. And instead of questioning their own standards or self worth, they question yours. This is why confidence is only celebrated up to a point. As long as it stays within this range that feels familiar and safe, people are fine with it. And the moment it gets past that, it gets labeled. And this is the part I found hilarious because the the problem isn't what you're doing. It's the fact that your self approval removes leverage, which means that you are harder to guilt, harder to shame, and harder to pull back into the same insecurity loop that everyone else is stuck in. And there's, like, this unspoken rule that you're only allowed to like yourself if you've struggled or suffered enough or been validated enough by other people. So if you skip those parts, people feel like you cheated. So they don't really dislike you. They dislike what your confidence implies, which is that their approval is not required. And once you see that, the comments start being kind of funny because you're not watching people judge you, you're watching them work through their own discomfort in real time.