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Self-soothing becomes easier when you recognize that you’re *supposed* to show up for yourself.
Make it a goal to show up for yourself 80% of the time, and depend on others 20% of the time.
Some seasons might be more 50-50 depending on the intensity, maybe even 80% relying on others in rare times of deep loss or illness.
But in your “normal” day to day, try practicing self soothing your own emotions and showing up for yourself without relying on others to help you shift yourself. It’s a powerful skill that gives you your power back.
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I have a theory that people who refuse to show up for themselves and self soothe, who just kind of allow their emotions to run wild, and they rely on other people to self soothe for them. So they lash out or they have to send that text or they have to make sure that the person no, like, this is exactly how I need you to talk to me, and how I need you to communicate, respond to me, and all of that stuff is because they feel lonely. Loneliness is a feeling that you have when you are emotionally dysregulated because you feel that if you were to show up for yourself, like, that doesn't hold meaning. Your own showing up for yourself doesn't hold meaning. It only best meaning if the other person does something, changes something, or whatever. And for some people, it feels lonely because they also, in their childhood, had to self soothe in that way. And so as adults, they're sort of, like, protesting against that feeling of, like, I'm always by myself. And now you're the person that I love or you're the
