Greenscreen psychology communication skills explainerfrom @kolbykirschner

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Yes ever come across that rare type of person who can make you feel more understood in five minutes than people you've known for five years? Welcome to the Human Nature Files. If you're interested in understanding why people feel, think, behave the way they do, this series is for you. Most people go into conversations thinking about what they are going to say best. What story they can tell, what questions they should ask, how they can make themselves seem more interesting. But these people do the exact opposite. When you're telling a story, they're not just waiting for their turn to speak. They notice little things. The way your voice changes when you talk about something you love. The way you hesitate before answering a certain question. Instead of moving on, they get curious. They ask you questions that make you think, wow, no one's ever asked me that before. You could call this empathetic resonance. They don't just make you feel heard. They make you feel safe enough to be known. They might share something personal about themselves and suddenly you feel comfortable sharing something that you normally wouldn't. Psychologists call this reciprocal self disclosure. It's one of the ways that meaningful connections can develop. Most magnetic people understand something that most people just don't even think about. People don't remember how interesting you worse. They remember how interesting that you made them feel. The fastest way to connect with another human being is to stop trying to be understood and start becoming curious about understanding them.